Yes, I am pro-premarital sex.

So? Yeah, big deal. Sue me! I think that's one of the reasons why most people either hate me or simply love me (no, in-betweens. hahaha!). Life's already hard without us complicating things, why find more things to complicate our complicated lives? (hehehe!) I'm being honest here, If a sixteen-year-old kid would ask my opinion about him (or her) wanting to have sex (oh, okei.. fine.. make love), I'd simply tell him the same old things I've been telling everyone else. First, THINK if you really feel and sure that you are ready for it. Second, don't EXPECT TOO MUCH... from yourself and from your partner, or you'll end up disappointed. It's okei to be scared. Third, USE a friggin' rubber protection, take your birth control PILLS (but of course, you have to check with your OB/GYN first)... It's okei to be PASSIONATE but be WISE. Don't be delusional. Love is NOT everything. Forth, think again, a 100 more times then a 100 more. If you think and FEEL that you are TRULY ready for it.. then GO. Who am I to stop you and tell you what you should or should not do? People who know me know that I am in favour of a lot of things that someone who grew up in a conservative country like the Philippines would normally opposed to (but as what most of you probably have already noticed I'm not even close to being normal... hahaha!).

I'm suddenly reminded of when an eight-year-long friend finally told me sya* is a bi, and when I said, "Oh? I thought you were gay! but hey.. at least, you're having the best of both worlds!", sya* was probably more shocked of my reaction than I was of kanyang** news. hahaha! Sa totoo lang, I wasn't shocked.. I was surprised but not shocked. Sya* was probably expecting something loud... a violent reaction.. Maybe, sya* thought I'd be bothered... I don't know maybe something scandalous... tipong gagawa ng eksena? hehehe.. Ang sa akin lang naman kasi kung saan ka masaya at wala kang natatapakan... Suportahan Ta Ka! ;) Though, I would have wanted to see the look on kanyang** face. haha!

Anyway, my "I'm really, really, really sorry" (oh, yan ha.. may public apology pa!) goes to those people who tried to call me yesterday afternoon/last night, hindi ko masagot ang tawag kasi may sermonang nagaganap nung mga oras na yon. Which brought me to blog about my being in favour of sex before marriage. A friend of a friend (I would like to emphasize that she is not my friend and that I don't like her. She was mean to me & my other friend. So, yes, I don't like her.) who came and gave me a visit yesterday is pregnant. Basta, long story short nag-meeting-meeting sila at na sermonan to the max ang babae... pumasok din sa eksena ang nanay-nanayan (sa totoong buhay, tita) nung lalake... yung nanay-nanayan isa pa ring nakaka-init ng ulo eh.. tama ba namang sabihan yung babae ng, "kasalan mo 'to lahat eh.. inakit mo pamangkin ko! you whore!" (ano ba tagalog sa whore? italiano kasi yung sermon eh...) pero anak ng tinapa (na kapatid ng ateng sirena?) di ba nakaka-init naman talaga ng ulo? Even if I don't like that girl... I somewhat felt the urge to say something and (in a way) stood up for her. Syempre, matapang... lugar ko eh.. sila ang dayo.. hahaha! No, seriously, people (especially old people) should always keep in mind that "it takes two to tango". I tell you, I'm sure that this girl did not rape and forced herself into his poor nephew (who, by the way, is 2 years older than the girl). I mean, there are better (and calmer and nicer) ways to tell this two that they did something that is not so okei.

You see this kind of things (and a whole lot of other stuffs) made me think that it is better to INFORM & teach the SAFE way to do it than to scare the hell out of these youngsters. Back when I was in highschool, I saw my schoolmates getting pregnant/getting someone else pregnant, be mums/dads at a young age, be single mums or forced to abort aborting and/or having to change or stop school. All because (well, of course, aside from the fact that they can't seem to control themselves, which is absolutely normal at that age) no one told them there are safe ways to do it. As I see it, sex (erm, love making) was, is and will always be a part of a long term relationship especially those in their late teens - early 30's. It's inevitable, (this is also one of the reasons why I don't believe that MUCH in long distance relationships, but that's another post story) sooner or later, you'd reach a point where carnal needs (desires) would... umm, what's the word? Haunt? Araise? Tempt? you. Yes, we can control ourselves, yun nga yung pinag-ka-iba natin sa mga animal, di ba? but only up to a certain point. Come on, let's face it, Tao lang tayo. And afterall, where did we descent from?

pag-ingles kasi masosobrang obvious kung sino eh. hahaha!
sya* = He or She.
kanyang** = His or Her.

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